5 Love languages:
Words of affirmation, physical touch, quality time, acts of service, and gift giving make up the 5 different love language. Love is complex. Everyone spends their life chasing it but it is more than just that warm fuzzy feeling. It is a choice to show up everyday and be the best partner for them. Everyone gives and receives love differently because it is shaped by their upbringing and life experiences. This is why it is important to make sure you know your love language to help your partner love you correctly and know your partners love language so you can love them properly. Let’s break down the 5 love languages.
Words of Affirmation
Words of affirmations would be encouraging, complimenting, and reassuring your partner. This could be writing your partner a love letter, sending a thoughtful text before a big event, or simply telling them you are proud of them. I’m sure you can picture someone in your life saying, “just get me a thoughtful card” when you ask what they want for their birthday. A gift probably wouldn’t hurt, but expression of words mean so much more to them. If your partner has this love language you want to make sure to give them enough recognition and verbalize your feelings toward them often.
Physical Touch
Physical touch is body language, non-verbal cues, and physical contact. For example, holding hands, hugging, and kissing would all fit under this category to show your love. If your partner has this love language they probably enjoy back rubs, cuddling at night, and sitting close at restaurants.
Quality Time
Quality time is not just about the amount of time you spend together, it’s all about the one on one uninterrupted time. Quantity DOES NOT equal quality. Here you could go on a long walk together, go on a special date, or start a hobby together. If your partner has this love language, avoid checking your phone while they’re talking and be intentional when you’re together.
Acts of Service
Actions speak louder than words here. Acts of service is anything that helps relieve some stress off of your partner. For example, folding their laundry, doing the dishes, making them dinner for when they get home. Partners with this love language will get very frustrated when you don’t follow through with your promises.
Gift Giving
Gift giving is more than just the price you spend, it is about showing your love through tangible things. It doesn’t matter how big or small, expensive or not expensive. Partners with this love language physically want a token of your love for them. This could be flowers on an anniversary, a thoughtful birthday gift, or picking them up their favorite candy on your way home from work.
Final thoughts with a Bonus Quiz
Learn each other’s love languages because it will take your relationship to new heights. If you’re still not sure what your (or your partners’) love languages are, take this quiz . Leave a comment with your love language down below!